Green with envy, or na?

 I CELEBRATE OTHERS' SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS. I WISH THE BEST FOR EVERYONE

As selfless as this affirmation seems, it is in fact completely selfish. Any time you are jealous of someone’s success or think how unfair it is that they have this or that, you are only calling forth more of the same emotions onto yourself. It is imperative that you celebrate and are happy for other people, as what you wish for others is what you inevitably call upon yourself. This is a big one people! 

Positive affirmations are what you make them; this is only a short list of the many positive affirmations to change your life. You can choose to use your thoughts to create the life you want and change harmful thinking patterns, or you can unconsciously allow your thoughts to run your life negatively. Does anyone else have any standout affirmations they would like to share or examples where positive affirmations have worked in their life?

No letting go, no holding back!!!

He won’t let me go” I have heard this so many times from women who come to me for advice. In the midst of battling the reasons whether they should stay in their relationship or if it is time to walk away, they find comfort in believing that the man must love them because he refuses to bow out peacefully. Granted there are many situations that the man is truly in love with the woman, but do not always be fooled.

A lot of times what is really happening is that you’re just too damn convenient. You are too beneficial to this man for him to dare let you walk away. We all see women everyday who basically are the mothers to the men they are with. They do it all and sexual benefits are included. They take care of everything, carry the financial burden, and allow the man to get away with way too much. He can cheat on her and disrespect her. He can break her mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Yet because he insists that he wants to be with you when you’re ready to leave you actually start to buy into the “he won’t let me go, so he must love me” perception. If he really loved you he would not do half the things I just listed. He would not wait until you’re ready to leave to finally step up his game (he will step it up long enough to reel you back in but then it is back to the same old negative behavior). If he actually loved you then his heart would weigh heavy on him when he knowingly and continuously brings you stress, unhappiness, and hurt. A man who loves his woman cannot continuously watch his woman in pain and be OK with it. Some situations are not this extreme but the principle remains the same. He keeps you around and fights for you because you’re his meal ticket. So why would he let that go.

Love has nothing to do with it and a woman needs to be honest with herself. She should not continue to feed herself a lie due to her fear of a failed relationship and being alone. At the end of the day, I nor does anyone else have all the facts to your situation. So our opinions are somewhat limited. As a woman you have to trust your intuition more because rarely does a woman not know the answer deep inside. For those that are spiritual I do know somebody that does have all the facts and that’s GOD. So when you’re in a situation where you really don’t know where you stand with your partner then lean on GOD’s guidance. Because believe me, that man can and will say whatever is necessary to keep his benefits going but GOD will only tell you to do what is beneficial for YOU. Don’t keep telling yourself and others that “he won’t let me go”, because the real issue to consider is why do you continue to allow him to stay. 

The very best bet is to go with your gut feelings before talking to your peers and family, sometimes the perspective of others can influence your decisions.  And always pray about it. 

Daily inspiration

ENVY IS NOT A GOOD EMOTION

If you feel you're missing out because you don't have what other people have, stop thinking like that. You're veering dangerously close to envying them, and that's not a good emotion. Appreciate what you do have, rather than envying what you don't. And if you really want something, work for it.

Because ☝🏽️

Get Movin'!!!

Who's Cooking

Fried Hallibut 

Crab Pasta

Corn 

Corn Bread 

 

Dinner Tonight 

Useful Weekends

WAYS TO HAVE A USEFUL WEEKEND WITH NO PLANS 

Ever get stuck in the house because you couldn't make plans, but still didn't want to sit around and do nothing?  Whether work reasons or family reasons (new born) for example, whatever the reason I've listed a few things that can help make that slow weekend at least useful! 

M1. HANDLE UNPLEASANT CHORES DURING THE WEEK

There’s nothing like 5 loads of laundry to take up your entire Saturday and make your weekend go by faster than it has to. Instead of saving things like cleaning, laundry and other miscellaneous household chores for the weekend, knock them out one by one throughout the week when you find time. Assign yourself one small task every day so they are limited when the weekend rolls around!

2. RISE EARLY

Sleeping in can be one of the best things about the weekends, but don’t waste all your precious free time snoozing! Try to wake up around the same time you do during the week, so you can maximize your days. The early bird gets the worm…even on the weekends!

As an added bonus, waking up at the same time every day will help to make that Monday morning rise less dramatic.

3. MAP OUT YOUR WORK SCHEDULE IN ADVANCE

9:00PM on Sunday night can be downright depressing. Take the pressure off your Sunday evenings by keeping a running monthly schedule that you can tweak along the way. This way, your descent back to reality after a weekend of floating on cloud 9 won’t come so abruptly on Sunday night. Mapping out your time well in advance is also a great way to keep your many projects organized, too!

4. MAKE PLANS

Winging it can work out just fine, but making plans for the weekend allows you to get excited about something specific. You’ll look forward to your plans all week long and whenever you’re having a rough moment, you can look to your plans as the light at the end of the tunnel.

5. STAY CLOSE TO HOME

Getting out of town for the weekend can be great, but travel time can be brutal. Once you factor in the time it takes to get to your destination and back home again, that often accounts for half a day or more! Instead, opt for a “stay-cation” in your town. Head to a remote part of your city you don’t frequent much and explore! You’ll feel like you went on an adventure, even though you’re just miles away from home.

Somedays even when I'm not feeling too well I still want to move around and be productive around the house.  Hopefully some of the mentioned tips can help.

Get Movin'!!!