Anxiety and Depression

Having anxiety and depression is one of the hardest things to ever deal with, especially when you don't know why you have it. I've learned some ways that help me the most. 

1. Call a Friend- It's very easy to feel completely alone when having an attack, but you never are as alone as it seems. I often times will call my best friend and she can get me from crying to laughing in a short amount of time. 

2. Write- Another thing that helps me is writing down my thoughts in a notebook. This gets your feelings out without causing any harm.

3. Get on Pacifica- If you didn't know, there is an app for mental health called Pacifica that tracks your feelings, lets you do activities to improve your mood, and communicate to others with the same problems. It has helped me out more than anything else.

4. Listen to Music- Sometimes the best thing to do is to listen to songs that describe your situation, or even some upbeat music to make you feel better.

5. Workout- A good run while listening to a playlist can always bring my mood up! Plus it's healthy!

6. Relax- Watch a comedy movie and drink a hot chocolate or your favorite warm beverage in sweats and a tee, or light some candles and take a bubble bath. Have some you time and be easy on yourself.

7. Draw or Paint- I'm not very artistic, but drawing a representation of your feelings help.

8. Pray- As a christian, I know it can be hard to pray at times, but I find that praying is always a relief and that God is listening and understands

9. Cry- Believe it or not, it is healthy to cry and let things out!

10. Think Positively- Think of your favorite things and what you love about yourself and your accomplishments.

11. Watch YouTube- Get on YouTube and watch some funny youtubers, or even your favorite beauty channels.

12. Read- Grab a book or your kindle and read your favorite books!

13. Take Deep Breaths- When you have an anxiety attack, your breathing is very fast and shaky. Slow down and regulate it.

14. Reassure Yourself- Look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself a pep talk. Complement yourself, it's needed.

15. Play with or Cuddle your Pet- Animals have an amazing ability to help with anxiety and depression. They somehow can make anyone feel loved and needed without saying a word, so if you have a pet, give them attention!

Anxiety and depression will normally come and go throughout life but knowing how to deal will help keep the temporary condition from becoming a way of life! 

Get Movin!!!

Work Relations

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My husband and I have been together for almost 14 years. He’s 32 and I’m 30 years old.

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve noticed that he was always on his phone. So, a few days ago, he went to the store with a friend of his, and he left his phone, and it was unlocked. I took the chance to look through his phone, and what I found were messages between him and a co-worker of his in his DM box on Instagram. He was telling her how sexy she was, talking about make-up, sex, and just a number of sexually explicit things that he’s only supposed to say to me. Also, she showed him a video of herself dancing naked. I was soooo hurt by this, and what made it worse is that he would always talk negatively about her to me, but secretly he was talking to her on an intimate level and flirting with her while they were at work. Also, he proclaimed to be friends with her boyfriend, who also works with them.

Now, let me remind you, she knows about me, yet they both continued on with this. I confronted him with pics of the messages that I took from my phone. He immediately said that it was only flirting and nothing more. I wanted to confront her as well, but I thought about her boyfriend. I thought about him feeling the same way I did so I changed my mind. Now, my husband is on his apology and sympathy tour because I told him I’m taking a break from our marriage to see if it’s what I really want. We have 2 small children together and I know that whatever decision I make is going to affect them.

My trust for him is gone, and I honestly don’t know what he can do to gain my trust back. He’s been trying, but I still think about all of the things that were said between them. 

When dealing with these deep seeded relationship issues, consider both sides (honestly) as the reason "why" is very important.  For the purposes of clarity, closure and growth certain questions and answers can really make this ugly occursnce a clear beautiful learning experience the two can grow closer from or give you the facts you need in order to move on.  Good luck, think, talk and get to work! 

Get movin!!!

Happy you =happy you

True happiness comes from within and sometimes it takes extra work in order to remain a happy person even in tough times and situations.  Below, I've listed somethings that can help and with consistency some of these practices will become second nature.

1. BE POSITIVE 

Ignore negative thoughts.  Think of something you're thankful for instead.

2. FIND THE SILVER LINING 

Use challenges as learning opportunities.  Grow from the woes and they will seem smaller 

3.  SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE 

4.  BE OPTIMISTIC 

Don't bring yesterday's drama into your new week and place of peace 

5.  FAKE YOUR CONFIDENCE 

Practice letting the small things slide and when faced with the gripes they won't seem to matter as much (small sh!t) 

6. CREATE A HAPPY MUSIC PLAYLIST 

7.  TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY 

8. GET A PET 

Got no kids or baaad kids?!? 

9.  GIVE YOURSELF THINGS TO LOOK FOWARD TO

If you have something to look forward to at the end of each week, it'll be easier to get through your days. So plan out something fun for the weekend!

10.  SET GOALS 

Small attainable goals, home improvements, spring cleaning and crafts for example 

11.   IF POSSIBLE, SPEND A FEW DOLLARS 

12.   PAY ATTENTION TO HAPPY PEOPLES BEHAVIOR 

Don't get angry when you see someone humming on the bus. Instead, look at how happy they are and let it rub off on you.

13.  LET GO OF GRUDGES 

14. DISTANCE FROM NEGATIVE ENERGIES 

15.  REWARD YOURSELF FOR YOUR HAPPINESS NOT THE TOUGH TIMES

Cheers to me kicking ass today, not cheers I almost killed everyone in the building! 

Happiness is something we have to practice and exercise.  Reevaluate and constantly change, honestly how can your feelings stay the same if things keep changing? Try it 

Self love

Daily self love

BE KIND TO YOURSELF!

Be kind to yourself and shush your inner critic. Your inner critic is not always a voice of reason and it can make you doubt yourself sometimes. Just remember that you are only human, that you are doing the best you can do and that your imperfections are not failures; they are opportunities to learn. 

Self-acceptance is something you can nurture. It’s a skill that you can practice and it’s not an innate trait that you either have or don’t.  Each day one small thing is all it takes.