Self Love

I simply inhale the lesson & exhale the ties; Poof! 

Spark it up

Even if your relationship or marriage is happy, it doesn’t mean you can’t rekindle the spark you felt in the beginning of your relationship. Keeping the spark flaming carries your relationship  through hard times and keeps it strong no matter what you face. If you’re in love with your mate, but want to rekindle the spark, try some of these ideas to bring you closer together and tighten your bond with each other. 

1. TAKE A CLASS

There’s something about a shared experience that strengthens the bond you feel with your husband and it's also a great way to rekindle the spark. It doesn’t matter what kind of class you take, but look for something that’s new to both of you. That way you can talk about it beforehand and you’ll have plenty to discuss during and after the class too. Try an ethnic cooking class, a swing dance lesson or even skydiving. The point is to spend time together doing something new and different.

2. WRITE A LIST

Sounds boring, right? This activity can be really enlightening. Grab two pieces of paper and two pens and spend at least 10 minutes writing down things you love and appreciate about each other. This can make you both feel good and remind one another that love is there, even if your night consists of walking the dog, correcting your kid’s homework, making dinner and cleaning the bathroom before you fall into bed exhausted. Maybe finding out your husband likes watching you cook will make it less tedious.

3. GIFTS FOR DADDY 2

You don’t have to break the bank or do this every day, but a spontaneous gift is a great way to show your love. Chances are if you do it for your husband, he’ll take the cue and do the same for you soon. A gift might be anything from his favorite coffee drink on Sunday morning while he sleeps in, a new box of his favorite cereal or having lunch delivered to his office. The surprise means more than the gift, actually, and lets him know that you think about him when you aren’t together.

4. JUST CALL BABE

Life gets busy. We all know that. Between careers, housework, fun and maybe even a couple of kids, your marriage can end up on the back burner. That isn’t good, but many couples feel that it’s inevitable and they can get back on track when things settle down. The truth is, it doesn’t take that long to connect. Set aside 15 minutes a day to simply sit and talk with each other. This might be as you lay down for bed or while you cook dinner together. The point is to have a scheduled time to talk each and every day. You’ll feel closer, I promise.

5.  TRIP OUT!

It doesn’t have to be a week in Bermuda. Even an overnight stay in your own hometown works. Getting away from your everyday life and taking the chance to focus on each other is a perfect way to strengthen your marriage and remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place. By all means, take a week-long cruise if finances and time allow, but if not, don’t despair. Book a room downtown and check out a restaurant you’ve never tried. 

6. A DATE NIGHT 

No doubt you’ve heard the importance of date night. Yes, it does give you and your husband the chance to hang out together doing something you enjoy. For many couples, budgets, kids and conflicting schedules make it hard to plan a date. Never fear – you can have a date night at home. My husband and I have resorted to Subway and television after the kids are in bed. Or nachos and beer on the patio on a summer night. The point isn’t how much you spend or what you do, but is that you’re spending time together doing something you both enjoy and creating memories that will last a lifetime.

7. AFFECTION IS KEY

This doesn’t mean you have to end up in bed together several times a day. Affectionate gestures are an easy and fast way to let your husband know you care about him and want to be close to him. Hug for a few seconds before you leave for work, kiss each other when you arrive home at night, hold hands at the mall, or snuggle on the couch while you watch your favorite show. These simple things create intimacy that keeps you feeling close to each other, even when you’re too tired for more.

In an attempt to not forget why we are doing this whole thing anyway, I remind myself daily that I need to inspire, uplift and bring joy to his life.  Sex and looks are fine but you MUST flex your Jinè se Quà and Charm him as well; the rewards make my grandmother blush! And after all, if you're not his dream girl; someone is so get to work ladies. 

Self love

My Worth

Knowing is always better than thinking! 

Black Chyna & Rob Kardashian dating?!?

Rob Kardashian just kicked a social media hornet nest by joking (we think) about knocking up Blac Chyna, while also taking a jab at his sisters ... in one brilliant meme.

Rob posted the pic of BC carrying a baby car seat and saying she's out to birth the "next generation of the Kardashian name!"

It's a hardcore troll of Kim, Kourtney, Khloe and Blac Chyna's nemesis, Kylie -- especially since we know Rob's friends and family aren't happy about his hook-up with Chyna. 

I don't know about you, but I'm NOW ready for atleast one cocktail with Khloè! Seriously people if this is true; its messy.  Clean it up!!!

Me Time

Remember to make yourself happy first and then make your way down the list!!! 

Who Cookin???

Ingredients 

Penne Pasta 

Pasta Sauce of your choosing 

Asiago Cheese 

Parmegan Cheese 

Ricota

Ground meat is optional 

Basil

Garlic 

Chopped 

Onion

Cook until it looks good enough to eat!

 

Tip Off

Get Movin!!!

He's just not that into you

Unbalanced

• A relationship should be balanced, with both people giving and receiving. There are some telltale signs that he is settling for you, such as when you are making all of the plans and initiating the majority of the communication. When you find yourself doing a lot of nice things for him, such as his laundry and cooking him food, make sure you are getting perks in return. It's time to end the relationship if you are not getting what you need.

Dates

• Don't judge the quality of your dates on the amount of money your boyfriend spends. Dates do not need to cost a lot of money, they just need to be thoughtful. Couples can make dinner at home, go for walks in the park, go out for dinner and a show, spend the day at the beach or a million other things that match your interests. If your boyfriend is only calling you in the wee hours of the morning to spend time with you, it is a sign that he would rather spend his free times with people other than you. Friend time is very important, but romantic relationships need time to cultivate and grow. If he is not making it a priority to see you regularly, he is settling for you.

Introductions

• When your boyfriends introduces you to his friends and family, this is a good sign. Introducing you to people that are important to him is a way for him to communicate that you are important. If several months have gone by and you still have not met any of his friends or family, he might be settling for you.

Affection

• Not everybody wants to be smothered with hugs and kisses all the time, but some level of physical affection is very important in a relationship. Some men are not fans of public affection, but if he practically ignores you in public situations, be assured that his heart is not completely in the relationship. There are other signs that your boyfriend would rather be somewhere else, such as regularly pushing you away when you want to hug, kiss or hold hands.

  

  
  

  You don't have to put up with being taken advantage of. If you do, you're likely to end up silently resentful, while your partner is blissfully unaware. So makes some changes if you want the relationship to thrive. Are you a people-pleaser, or reluctant to say no to anyone?

  
  

  

  
  

Don't Save Her

Supposedly, there is more than one type of women who men will marry, but we’ve come to the realization that there are many types of woman who men simply don’t marry.

This is why, if you are trying to find the perfect man and get married, you need to know about the things you might be doing wrong and you need to be smart about your dating. So, just read on and find out about those types of women that men do not want to marry.

1. BOSSY CHIX

At first it may be kind of cute, that he likes a woman who is ambitious and knows what she wants, but after a while, he will realize that things are a bit different and he will “feel like he is in grammar school being told what to do by his second grade teacher.” He will get that mama vibe and probably pull back.

2. PLAYER TYPE 

 Maybe at first, a man will be intrigued by a hard-to-get lady, but after a while he will want to be with someone who is a bit nicer and more stable. So, no matter how tempting it may seem, stop playing games with his heart! 

3.CLING ON CHICK

Don't suffocate him; live ya life!  Men love a woman who knows what she wants, who makes plans that don’t necessarily involve him, who has a goal in her life and who doesn’t live only for him and for seeing him happy. So ladies, no matter how in love you might be, don’t forget about yourself or about your dreams!

4.  JEALOUS CHICK

Men enjoy knowing that they’re wanted and coveted, but not to the extent that they can’t have a conversation with someone else without feeling guilty or like they’re being policed. Basically, let things slide; if he’s straying, you’ll be able to tell and you can boot him to the curb. If he’s not, cut him some slack!

5.UPGRADER CHICK

For the women who want to transform their guys: stop. If he’s not the man you want, you can’t spend every waking hour trying to mold him into something better. They say there is someone for everyone, and for the most part this is true.

6.GOSSIP QUEEN

Men might enjoy hearing some funny anecdotes about a friend or coworker every once in a while, but if all he hears is a load of trash talking about everyone you’ve ever met, he’s going to feel hard pressed to trust you with anything private. It’s never good to put gossip at the center of a relationship.

7. DADDIES GIRL 

Maybe at first a man will be impressed that a younger woman finds him attractive, but after a while, he will realize that his special lady has a couple of issues that she needs to resolve if she wants to settle down with him.

8.TROPHY WIFE

We all like to be spoiled by our partner, but someone who never cooks, cleans or does much of anything besides demand the very best of every thing might have a hard time finding someone who wants to spend their life catering to their partner's needs. 

9.MVP CHICK

Party girls are fun to hang out with. They're wild, free-spirited and always down to have fun. As much as guys like a girl who can party until the wee hours, it's not necessarily one of the qualities they look for in a wife. While it's fun to be with the life of the party when you're single, guys won't be too keen on marrying someone who sleeps all day and parties all night.

10.CITY COP CHICK

The hot pursuit woman is the one who does ALL the chasing. Guys love feeling wanted and desired, and to an extent, enjoy being chased. But when you find yourself making all the moves, planning everything, and pursuing a man without a sympathetic response, you’re probably doing just a bit toooooo much. 

No one is perfect and the perfect person for you will look pass small issues.  The best thing you can do for your perfect person is to be a whole complete-good person.  Get those bills out of the way, messy ex's and bad habits all fulfilled first, and then just open yourself up and the right company will present thy self! 😊

Bill Cosby update

Follow this link for the latest update:

 http://ktla.com/2016/01/06/l-a-county-district-attorney-declines-to-file-charges-against-bill-cosby/

Pray for Bill Cosby and family.